READING 2 DISCUSSION: FRIENDSHIPS COMPARISON 4
Reading2 Discussion: Friendships Comparison
Friendships:A Comparison with Arab Culture
Froma universal point of view, a friendship entails a personalizedrelationship where people share common perceptions and exchanges thatare mutually beneficial. However, there are similarities anddifferences in terms of friendships in different in differentcultures. To explore these dynamics, this discussion will focus onthe similarities and differences between my culture and the ArabCulture in terms of the relationships and friendships. Thesimilarities range from the way the two cultures recognize friendsand carry out their relations. On the other hand, the differences arebased on the perception of the relationship and how each friendtreats the other.
Justlike in my culture, people in the Arab culture consider their friendsto be closer to the than any other person. People in the two culturesconsider friends as special people and give the time and space intheir personal life. Similarly, people in the two cultures take timeto build friendships with the people that they meet and relate with.This means that a person is not considered a friend immediately whenthey meet, but it takes time to relate and share. Finally, just likein my culture, the Arabs consider friends as people whose companyshould be enjoyed (Nydell, 2000).
However,unlike my culture that considers friends to be more valued throughactions, the Arabs consider the words and promises of a friend morethan the actions. In addition, the two cultures differ whenconsidering the frequency f friend presence. An Arab will consider afriend to be a person who should be visiting regularly since theyappreciate the frequent presence of their friends. On the other hand,people in my culture do not necessarily value frequent presence offriends. According to Nydell (2000), a lot of availability and visitsby a friend is considered as being insensitive to one`s privacy. Thisbrings the element of privacy by exploring the extent at which afriend breaches the privacy of a person. The practice in the twocultures shows that people in the Arab culture value friends morethan in my culture.
Unlikein my culture where people can easily refuse requests from friends,people in the Arab culture do not refuse such requests. An Arab seesit hard to say no to a sincere request from a friend, no matter howtedious or inconveniencing the task involved is. According to Nydell(2000), this is so because the Arabs use the phrase “For my sake”whenever they request their friends for favors. However, in myculture, people do not accept requests from friends if they feel thetask is much inconveniencing. Moreover, the Arabs value the time thatthey spend with friends more than they value their personal time andspace. On the contrary, people in my culture regularly appreciatetheir personal time and space more than the socialization withfriends.
Generally,the similarities of friendships in my culture and in the Arab cultureare based on the recognition of friendship and the value of the timeshared. Both cultures enjoy sharing with friends and consider them asclose people. However, the differences are based on the perception ofthe value of the relationship between two people. The two culturesdiffer in terms of the extent of sacrifice that a person can go togive favors to a friend. The differences also exist in terms of thevalue that a friendship is given in terms of personal time.
Nydell,M. O. (2000). Friendsand Strangers. InGardner,P. (2005). New Directions: Reading, Writing, and Critical Thinking,Page 40-43. Cambridge: Cambridge University Press