Peopleget into marriages for different reasons. Such reasons may includelove, convenience, companionship, safety and sexual satisfactionamong others (Knox & Caroline 216). It can be argued that coupleswho get into marriages depend on each other for the fulfillment ofvarious needs. However, couples experience challenges in the courseof their marriages. The ability to solve such challenges depends ontheir severity. When couples fail to maintain their relationships,they resort to divorce or separation as the only viable option. Inother words, challenges that cannot be resolved amicably between ahusband and wife often lead to divorce. Most reports indicate a highrate of divorce in the modern society (Stange et al., 407). Thispaper examines the roles played by lack of communication, financesand children in the increasing divorce trends.
Adequateand effective communication is one of the key determinants of ahealthy relationship between a husband and wife. Lack of effectivecommunication can cause negative effects regarding the ability ofcouples to maintain their commitments to each other. It canexaggerate even the minor problems that arise in the course ofmarriages (Wood 6). Factors that lead to lack of effectivecommunication include busy work schedules, familiarity, personalitydifferences and resentments. Various studies indicate that busy workschedules contribute to a lack of effective communication betweenspouses (Wood 6). The issue is facilitated by tough economicconditions in most countries. Partners engage a lot in incomegenerating activities at the expense of other activities that mayfacilitate family unity. Such partners hardly find time tocommunicate their problems because they are busy and tired. Wood (6)explains that couples who communicate their thoughts and feelings toeach other develop effective adaptation skills. The adaptation skillshelp them to manage their conflicts objectively. Such couplesmaintain the objective of building their families against allchallenges (Wood 6).
Resentmentsmay also facilitate divorce between couples. For instance, mencomplain a lot about nagging. In this situation, women are perceivedto be the people who nag (Wood 6). When a man considers thestatements of a woman as nagging then they fail to value suchcommunication from the onset. Correspondingly, women complain thatmen do not validate their opinions. When a husband and wife becometoo familiar with each other, they tend to be judgmental regardingthe needs of each other. They assume that they know what theirpartners need even without communicating the same (Wood 6). Lastly,some people do not talk much. This fact can be explained usingFreud’s stages of development. Partners may fail to understand thispersonality type. They may also fail to tolerate that type ofpersonality. This argument may be true for people who seekcompanionship in marriages (Knox & Caroline 216).
Oneof the common reasons why people get into marriages includesfinancial sustainability (Knox & Caroline 216). Finance is animportant resource for meeting the physical needs of family members.Conflicts may arise from lack of financial resource (Strelitz &Ruth 56). Contradicting opinions regarding finances may also lead toconflicts. Conflicts may also arise from the distribution of theavailable finances. Poor management of financial resources may alsolead to conflicts between couples. Lastly, conflicts may arise overwho controls and manages the resources of the family (Strelitz &Ruth 56). Most societies place financial responsibilities on men.Women may only support in such circumstances. Men who do not haveadequate financial resources do not inspire a stable future for theirwives and children. In such cases, women may be forced to separatefrom their spouses and seek support from them. The matter can befacilitated by the existence of children.
Differingopinions regarding financial matters by partners may lead to divorce(Strelitz & Ruth 56). Some people are spenders while others aresavers. It is not easy to determine who is wrong or right. However,success lies in maintaining the balance between these two differentpeople. Couples who cannot negotiate and compromise regarding theiropinions on financial matters may experience challenges. Poormanagement of financial resources creates a feeling of insecurity(Strelitz & Ruth 57). Most of the time, poor management ofresources results from impulse buying or poor priority of thefamily`s needs. One partner may walk out, citing the unstablefinancial status in the future. It may be argued that partners whowalkout may aim at salvaging their portion of the finances before itis completely spent out. Conflicts that result from disagreements onwho controls and manages finances in the family may also lead todivorce. Specifically, conflicts may arise if one partner feels thatthe other is secretive about their total earnings. Conflicts may alsoarise if a partner does not trust the other’s financial managementskills.
Whendiscussing Children as the causes of divorce in modern marriages, itis important to analyze both sides of the case. Lack of children cancause divorce (Gray & Kerymt 76). Accidental pregnancies may alsocause divorce. The child factor illustrates the expectations ofcouples who get into marriages (Knox & Caroline 216). Accidentalpregnancies may cause divorce between partners who had apre-agreements to stay childless. Some people fear takingresponsibilities for children. They would rather support someone elsefinancially to take care of their children than do the samethemselves. Correspondingly, infertility may also lead to divorce,especially between couples who had expressed early desires to havechildren (Gray & Kerymt 76). Children need specific care andattention. It is a consensus that people expect their partners tohelp them with taking care of their children. The contribution ofother partners may be jeopardized by busy work schedules. Lack ofassistance may be interpreted as a lack of interest in taking care ofchildren. This case is a potential source of conflicts betweencouples. The conflict may lead to divorce.
TheEffects of Divorce
Mostdivorce cases involve children. Children are affected by the processand the eventual act of divorce. Most children who are taken care ofby single parents drop out of school, abuse drugs and become pregnantat tender ages. In general, they exhibit instability in behaviorpatterns. Divorce may also lead to financial constraints amongpartners because they are forced to share the little resources. Onthe positive side, some of the people who divorce live happily andfree from stress. The contributions of such people at theirrespective workplaces may increase due to lack of distractions.
Thispaper has discussed that the rate of divorce has escalated in themodern society. The increase in the rate of divorce can be attributedto three factors lack of communication, finances and children.Children are the most affected group by the process of divorce.Divorce may also affect financial stability of couples. It also haspositive effects, especially for couples who were in abusive anddisrespectful relationships.
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