Differences in Communication Style

Differencesin Communication Style


Differencesin communication styles between men and women

Althoughboth men and women are brought up in the same planet, they usedifferent styles to communicate and interpret messages from otherpeople. There are two major differences between the communicationstyles used men and women, which are easy to identify. First, womentend to be more relationship oriented during communication and focuson looking at commonalities and establishing connections with fellowwomen. Men, on the other hand, relate to each other on a one-down orone-up basis (Lieberman, 2014). Secondly, women consider chats asproductive end. This means that a woman does not see the need to takeany action if she feels that she has been sufficiently heard. Men, onthe other hand, are conditioned to listen in an active way. A manassumes that other people begin a conversation to seek for assistanceor advice, which makes them listen actively.

Non-verbalcommunication differences between women and men

Womenand men differ in their tendency to apply non-verbal communication,skills used in interpreting non-verbal communication, andcomprehending gender differences in the usage of non-verbalcommunication cues. For example, women have a higher propensity touse more restrained and subtle gestures and display differentialgestures, including lowering of the eyes when they are interrupted(Carnes, 2014). Men, on the other hand, rely on obvious gestures andhave the tendency to use hands to express their thoughts. Inaddition, women are more likely to maintain eye contact whencommunicating than men, which is based on the notion that women usecommunication to express their emotions. Moreover, women associatetouching with an expression of sympathy or friendship (Carnes, 2014).Men, on the other hand, tend to associate touching with theexpression of sexual intentions. This means that men and women usedifferent non-verbal cues depending on the interpretation theyassociate with those cues.



Iagree with Tardei’s statement that women are more inclusive andwant to know more by asking questions and demand to be givenresponses. This is consistent with the observation made by (Drobnick,2013). Who then stated that women do not know whether the informationis in excess or necessary, but their interest is to find solutionswhenever they initiate a conversation. This means that women have atendency to talk and inquire more than men. However, I disagree withTardei’s idea that the style of communication adopted by womendepends on how they are brought up. This Tardei’s idea does notexplain why boys and girls who are brought up in the same familyset-up and under the same conditions fail to adopt similarcommunication styles.

Withregard to the use of non-verbal communication, I agree with Tardei onthe issue of women sing smiles, eyes, and body postures attractpeople. This is consistent with an observation made by Carnes (2014)who identified that women have a higher tendency to use facialexpression and restrained gestures than men.


Feroand classmates present a completely different idea that communicationstyles are determined by culture and not gender differences. Fero’sthought is based on the notion that cultural rules set by the societydetermine how people express their emotions. In my view, individualsof different genders express their emotions and feelings in differentways irrespective of the cultural rules established in theirrespective communities. For example, men from all culturalbackgrounds have a higher tendency to tackle challenges head on whilewomen use words to explore and then express their emotions (Drobnick,2013).

Feroalso states that both sexes do not reflect internal motives andfeelings through their behavior. I tend to disagree with this notionbecause people communicate to express their thoughts and feelingsirrespective of their sexes. For example, women use non-verbal cuesto express emotional intimacy and feelings (Carnes, 2014). Thisimplies that the primary goal of communicating is to expressemotions, feelings, and thoughts.


Carnes,D. (2014). Domen and women use non-verbal communication differently?Santa Monica: Demand Media.

Drobnick,R. (2013). Fiveways men and women communicate differently.Newburyport, MA: Psychology Central.

Lieberman,S. (2014). Differencesin male and female communication styles.New York: Diversity Trainer.